Journey to Marriage 15 - This is not the end

Through all the fairy tale journey to marriage I've had this year, it hasn't been all lovey dovey and hushy cushy. Getting to bond with another fully formed human hasn't been without frictions. Maybe it would have been easier if we were younger, like in our early twenties.

One major thing about BH and I is that both strong willed, though in different ways.

In my moments of doubts, I have said to myself that I'm not doing again and imagined marriage to BH cramping my style. Gosh, I have had gazillions of negative thoughts and fears that I've allowed myself to dwell on... Thoughts I have no business entertaining. But all in all, I'm very confident about the journey I'm about to embark upon.

I admit, BH is more stable than I am and less easily moved.

The laughable irony is that in all our good and bad times, the issue of tribal differences has never come up. In fact, it doesn't exist in our problems.

BH and I are similar in many areas, and different in many areas, a few of which are


  • I don't roll in cliques. I ride solo while He's a friend friend person. 
  • I'm have a more serious to life, while he takes life very easy. 
  • We are both entrepreneurial. He's more on the strategy while I'm more on the action (I don't have time to be talking when I have too much doing, lol).
  • He listens to secular music while I don't. This is actually a potential source of conflict in our marriage, not because it is secular but because I’m very sensitive to words, and I don’t like noise. Wisdom is needed here
  • He sees conflict as normal and embraces it. I hate conflict , run away from it, and see it as a sign of trouble in my relationship. This is another source of conflict as I tend to worry a lot while he carries on with life as normal when all is not well between us. 


All in all, we've learnt a lot from each other and still have so much more to learn. We have a wonderful support system... Something I lacked in my previous relationship, so many friends, families and mentors standing by us.

I thank God for everyone who stood by us through this journey. I thank God for our counsellors, friends, especially K, D and A.

I thank all of you for joining this series. I’m glad it has inspired and encouraged some of you, even though one spirit kept whispering to me to delete all the posts and stop the series, lol.

I especially thank God for Berry and cakes. Berry has been so helpful to me, you can't even imagine... Not just by introducing me to BH but by giving honest advice, making sure I get all my wedding materials on time, etc. By December, I won't be able to write my life's story without Berry Dakara constantly featuring in it, and because of that, she would forever drum it into our ears, lol.

In the end, I'm very grateful that God brought BH into my life. He's definitely worth every second of the wait. Now, let’s make this wedding a reality. Here's a gift from me to you - my favourite pre wedding picture.



This is the end of this series, and it had been one of my longest running. I will resume regular blogging from next week. A lot will be changing. Still working on somethings.

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  1. Whoop Whooop!! fairy tale ending. Bonding with another human isn't easy but when done right,Marriage is so worth it and I'm so excited for you. I really don't listen to songs with extremely secular lyrics because i'm sensitive as well, and whatever I hear sticks in my head and i definitely do not want to be hearing rubbish words which fill a lot of these songs. So glad that ethnic differences haven't come up. It's so inconsequential to be honest!

    All the very best!

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    1. Thank God o. So far, it has not been a barrier

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  2. Awwwwwww. I really don't want it to end. Thank you very much for taking us on this journey. You have renewed my faith in God regarding trusting God for a partner and I have also been very happy to share your posts with my single friends trusting too.

    My parents are also ethnically different, married for over 30 years and it is really doesn't bring any issues.


    Congratulations!!! May God continue to be your rock.

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    1. Aww, your comment is very humbling. Your parents are great examples for me. I wish them many more years of happiness.

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  3. This series has been an inspiration to me. I confess that I made a vision board the same week that I read your first post; Like you posted about it on a Monday and by Wednesday I completed my vision board....LoL. I'll have a testimony to share too.

    Thanks for sharing these personal details with us. I'm glad you've also shared the challenges as well. May God bless your union and give you grace, patience and all that you both need to bond and become one in spirit in Jesus Name.

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    1. Wow. Now waiting for your testimony. Congrats. Thanks for your prayers o.

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  4. I love, I love, I love!
    Congratulations and have a blissful union.

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  6. Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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  7. Beautiful love story and I think the difference in your personalities will work for both of you.

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  8. AWWW,a beautiful love story, thanks for sharing.I like the pic. Wishing you and BH a joyful wedding and blissful marriage.

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  9. Thanks so much for sharing this journey atilola..
    Wish you all the best!!

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  10. Awwww you brought happy tears to my eyes. I love your story and I look forward to your growth. Wishing you and BH all the best.
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  11. Awwwwww i wish you a blissful married life!

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  12. Hi Atilola,

    I really enjoyed this series, and I wish you both the best of God's blessings, eternal peace and joy! :-)

    Berry has definitely earned the rights to drum. Lol

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    1. Looll. Berry shouldn't block our ears joooo.

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  13. I don't want it to end! Congrats Atilola, may God bless your home

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  14. Awwwwww. this has been a great ride... love the fact that we get a picture too :-)
    Blessings and blessings and blessings as you begin a new season Atitola!
    Thanks for sharing your testimony (lol) and inspiring others out there too

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    1. Amen and Amen, thank you so so much

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  15. Peoples paths cross for very different reasons. guess this is ours - these series. Till when we get to meet in person (one of my 2017 vision board goals), keep impacting the world and I. Congrats gurl!!

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    1. Awwwww. Your comment is tear jerking. Amen to your prayers.

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  16. Awwww, Congratulations!!
    Love the picture, I think Tope is an Amazing Photographer.

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