Journey to Marriage 14 - My own kinda wedding

Thank you all for coming on this journey to marriage with me. We are gradually coming to the end of this series… while for me, the journey is forever.

I’ve never really liked attending big Nigerian weddings, and do my best to avoid them. I only attend people’s wedding if I am performing there, or the person is extremely close to me. So it was not a surprise that I wasn't over the top about wedding BH though I wanted a marriage with him.

When we visited the pastor we are accountable to as a couple, on his own side, his wife mentioned the idea of a destination wedding so I quickly chipped in that I've always wanted a destination wedding but many Nigerian parents won't give it a chance, and we also have to consider the kind of family we are marrying into.

BH then added that his mum won't mind. I knew my mum won't mind as long as she has her own wedding in Nigeria. And that was how the idea of a destination wedding started forming. We both informed our families, and they agreed.

So as it stands, we are having a big traditional wedding in Nigeria, and a very small and intimate destination wedding.

We considered and researched countries like Jamaica, Barbados, UAE, Zanzibar but we finally made our decision and settled for a country I will reveal later on the blog. Our major consideration especially in this time of recession was cost and visa stress to our guests. We are having 50 guests and cutting costs on so many things that would have cost an arm and a leg had we done it in Nigeria. It would be looking like something similar to this

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Because of this, I'm in no way stressed about my wedding. In fact, I don't feel like I'm getting married cos I'm not really doing anything or running around. My mum is doing organising the Nigerian one, all I'm doing is appearing at the venue to follow protocol (it has always been my dream not to have a hand in my wedding). And for the one outside Nigeria, the hotel is sorting everything out. All I'm doing is sorting out guest list and collecting flight money.

I'm therefore having 3 weddings- registry, traditional and white. Two would be in November and one in December. By the time 2016 is over, I will be fully and totally married like I had predicted in January. A lot can really happen in a year.

Right now, I need money, money and more money, even for the small wedding we're planning. My life is changing rapidly before my eyes, and I pray for the grace to stand through it all.

Question: What do you think about destination weddings? Is it something you would like to do for your wedding? Would your parents be open to having a destination wedding, considering the fact that most of their friends and family won’t be around?

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  1. I think I would opt for a destination wedding, if it will be cheaper and my partner's family do not have issues with it.


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    1. It's far cheaper, especially since you will be cutting down on guests by about 90% or more.

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  2. Awwwww! I think destination weddings are great. And I'm looking forward to where you'll have it and seeing photos. A lot can def happen in a year! So happy for you.


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  3. I trust Yorubas when it comes to big traditional wedding, dem no dey fall hand at allll! Show us plenty photo oo, if possible the video sef.

    Mama, eku palemo oo. Atilola, give your mother a very big hug for doing all the preparations for you oo. Congratulations once more.

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    1. Yes, yorubas do trads big, though it is not compulsory like the Igbos.

      Thanks. I will greet her.

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  4. Thank God you had everyone in on the destination wedding idea. It could be a real issue, you know

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    1. Yes o. In fact, most families don't agree at all.

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  6. I LOVE DESTINATION WEDDINGS!!! Ours would have been one but large families mean not everyone we wanted would have been there.

    I can't believe I'm missing your wedding! *tears*

    Berry Dakara Blog

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    1. I loved your wedding. It was very different, the only kind I have seen in Nigeria so far.

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  7. Destination weddings are awesome! Thank God both families agreed. This is clearly God working out things in your favour.
    A lot can truly be achieved in a year with God's assistance.



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    1. Yes, the way God arranged everything is so mindblowing whenever we remember.

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  8. I definitely want a destination wedding, I can see it in my mind. Somewhere in Scotland or Ireland in the Spring.

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    1. ... and you can have it if you really want it.

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  9. I've never really thought about it. I don't think my parents would mind. My dream wedding actually is something small and intimate with like just close family and very dear friends. The reception however...lol.

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    1. Many American parents won't mind o. Depends sha

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  10. Just attended a wedding here. We had hot, delicious meals. The wedding was amazing, everyone had such a great time. The space was elegant and impressive. The coordinator from NYC wedding venues really appears to love her job, she had a smile on the whole day. Even after the wedding ended.

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  11. My parents would not give in to a destination wedding. But I do love the idea.
    Can't wait to see the pics from yours.

    Tamie

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  12. You've come a long way! The stories reveal the fun parts but words can't describe all the downs that this year has presented to you. You'd make a fine wife. And a contented one at that. *which is God's promise to his Sons in the book of psalm*
    Thank you Atilola for doing this series, it has spurred something in me.
    You didn't just sit down and wait for a man. You served God with all of you.
    I wish you all the best dear.

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    1. Aww. Thanks for believing in me. I' so touched. Now, I want to cry

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  13. I like the idea of destination weddings but I'm not sure if it can happen in my case.
    I know the engagement will be big with many family members and friends but I want an intimate white wedding.
    I'm going to Italy for a destination wedding later in the year and I'm really looking forward to it :)

    Tuke's Quest

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