How is your Blogtitude?



I am not one for controversies and try to steer clear of them as much as I can, both in real life and on the internet (especially on the internet). If I stir up controversy, believe me, it is unintentional, cos I know people sometimes misunderstand me. 

However, I decided to quickly insert this post, which has been in my draft for about five months, as a sequel to some people's post, I noticed something on blogger, which I felt led to talk about and I am very sure many people will agree with me. Mine is a slightly different perspective, so I am not just hammering what they said. Please, read and comment on the following points stated.

I wonder why some bloggers won’t comment on people’s blogs, yet the opening comment on their posts is how they appreciate more comments on their blog. If you don’t comment on any other bloggers’ post, then I think you should be happy when you get a maximum of three comments on your post, though you have 107 followers. People want to be appreciated too.

Why is it that the only reason why some people followed others blogs is just so others can follow them back. Once they follow back, that is the last you hear of them. What makes it worse is that some of these people actually don’t post interesting stuffs on their blog, but one might consider it rude to unfollow because they are on one’s followership.

Why don’t some bloggers have the google follower gadget anymore? Does it have anything to do with google plus. Of course, this is not a blogtitude problem, I think it’s more out of ignorance. I have been sure to point it out to new bloggers who had this issue.

When you do any of the first two points above, and you are not Bella Naija or Linda Ikeji (who actually don’t have to follow you for you to follow them back), other bloggers might excuse you for a while, but after a while, they begin to notice your bad blogtitude and it actually puts them off (believe me, it does, even if they don’t say it). And then interest in your blog posts drops and you wonder what is happening.

If one wants more comments, then one should comment on other people’s blogs. One want more interest in one’s blog, then one should show interests in other people’s blogs. Unless one is really dishing out hot gists that people can’t resist to comment on, or one is satisfied with having a followership of 167, with an average of 1.5 comments, then we gotta work on changing that blogtitude.

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  1. Oh my dayz!!!! PREACH Lola!

    I agree with EVERYTHING you pointed out...

    the one that vexes me most these days is the people who don't have google connect... cos I never read RSS readers and yet I'm somehow supposed to miraculously keep up with your blog mschewww

    I used to feel really bad about not following back blogs that followed me, especially when I can tell that that's the only reason they followed me but I don't want to feel compelled to follow you if I don't like what you're blogging about

    Blogger etiquette! Follow it people

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    1. I bet you know I don't follow you. You are one person I like but don't follow. Sorry about that, but actually, I don't like nollywood movies, and don't watch them.

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  2. (Two hand covering my face). I am very guilty of not commenting when I read posts.This is because most of the time, I check on blogs when I am at work or on my phone and I usually intend to think of the comments and write them later. But as a Chief in procrastination, I hardly ever do. Overall, blogtitude has been really bad, I read almost all posts, but never get to comment. I plan and hope it improves pretty soon.

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    1. Lool @ chief procrastinator. I am actually talking to people who keep begging for comments but never comment.

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  3. All i can say is GBAM!!! You're on point!

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  4. I liked the honesty in this post and I think blogsville needs more honesty.

    Regarding comments:
    I try to comment as much as possible but I have to be honest and say I avoid viewing blogs when I am busy because I dont want to favour some - to the exclusion of others.
    Personally, I am grateful for every comment I get and I really dont mind when people dont comment because I know they might be pressed for time i.e. sneaking in to read blogs while at work OR reading a blog on the go.

    I feel reading a blog is quite similar to reading ones favourite newspaper column - you might read it for years before something compels you to write in. I feel not every post will resonate with every reader.

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    1. Yep Naijamum, I understand you completely.

      As I mentioned, I am referring to people who keep begging for comments, but never comment on anybody's blog, I mean nobody.

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  5. I used to be really good at commenting; and then stopped; I got lazy or maybe I just got tired, but I think I'm repenting these days; I'm trying again.

    Btw @ilola, Debonairs finally delivered my book last week and I finished it in a day. Forgive me for not dropping the Amazon comment yet; I've been very time constrained. I'm gonna do that this week by God's grace; but hey, very good read. Funny in the right places and with the kind of truths most of us find difficult to accept these days.

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    1. Wow! Glad you enjoyed it. You can drop the review at your convenience, but its important to me.

      Thanks so much.

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  6. need I say more? you have nailed it, just on point.

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  7. *chuckling to myself*

    I will not follow you just because you follow me. Sorry. Funny enough, I began following most of the ones on my blogroll because I read comments the blog owner made on someone else's blog, liked what they had to say, visited their blog, 'felt' their kind of writing and then chose to follow. Not sure that they all follow me back and its no big deal. I read Myne's blog from time to time, comment sometimes,not sure she follows mine but she comments on mine sometimes too. I am not in this for follower-ship BUT I truly appreciate all those that find my blog worthy of follower-ship. But what's the point of following if you never come by to visit me after that like you said?

    I do believe the best way to get more traffic to your blog is to visit other people's blogs and leave comments. I continue to pray for more go slow on my blog cos I believe my voice must speak, that it has a purpose and my blog is the platform from which that purpose is being fulfilled by the grace of God. So I am more into visitors cos even if you don't leave a comment I am hoping something will speak to them and help them in some way or maybe just make them smile. So I always find time to blog hop and read recent posts of blogs I follow and IF I have something to say, I will say it for as much as I want to increase footfalls on my blog, I shall not be commenting for commenting sake. And leaving 'waka pass' (just know I was here) sort of comments is also not me. Hence my comments tend to be annoyingly long like this one. Lol!

    However, when I leave a comment and come back later (cos I do) and you have not responded, it ticks me off but then again, I have come to accept that as part of the whole different strokes for different folks matter. The only person I have control over is moi-meme. Lol! So each one do his/her blog as he/she wants. Just know that, as you have pointed out, unless you are Linda Ikeji, what you do or don't do on other people's blogs will come back to you. Good or bad, abi?

    Bottom line, listen to @ilola o! It pays to have a good blogger-attitude oh!

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    1. Yeeehh! Really long comment. Before, I used to follow everyone who follows me, but when I realised that I follow loads of people, when anyone follows me, I check their blog, and see the kind of contents they put on. If t doesn't edify me, I don't follow back.

      For people like Myne, they can't follow everyone who follows them, cos they would just tire out, cos of their larger followership.

      On my own blog, I have come to respect people that comment, cos if they don't, there's nothing I can do about it. So, let's appreciate one another.

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  8. I totally agree with you on all the points you listed. When I was really new to blogsville, I read somewhere about leaving comments on other people's blogs if you want comments to be left on yours and it worked like magic. :-). You and Honeydame were among the first people to comment on my blog and have remained constant and I truly appreciate that. I think I'm guilty of following some blogs back cos they followed me and somehow, don't really comment on them after a while. Sometimes, I get drawn to some particular blogs that I'm used to visiting and I'm sure would always have interesting posts. Other times, I get tired of doing blog rounds and promise to visit those other blogs, but later forget or just generally fashy jare. Oh well, I would have to work on that. Having word verification kini popping out on some blogs also don't help matters. Sometimes, I type the scrawly word verification thingy and my comment would still not be accepted cos I got the word wrong. I just waka if I'm not in the mood to retype the next word that pops up. It also doesn't help when some blogs don't post frequently. It's still not an excuse sha cos I don't post so frequently nowadays. I will try and work on myself, so abeg ehnn my followers, no waka ooo. :-)

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    1. Yep, it works. It worked for me, when I did not really have followers..

      In my own opinion, word verification is annoying, but it doesn't stop me from dropping comments, cos I consider it very important.

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  9. The main reason I don't comment is laziness. I tend to procrastinate my comments until one day I just go on a commenting spree all at once.

    But it is annoying when people come to your blog and leave a comment like "Nice, Follow me back!"

    That just shows you didn't even read the post and you just came to farm for comments.

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    1. Lol at 'farm for comments'. Abi?

      I comment on almost everyone's blog I read, except yours. That is because when I read it, I really am lost for words.

      Let's just put it this way, I would rather talk to you face to face, than on your blog.

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  10. I do not follow blogs on google connect because I hardly read my dashboard...so what I do is add interesting blogs to my blogroll list, that way I immediately see updated blogs.

    I do my very best to comment on other blogs when I am online and not reading from my phone but sometimes, I just get lazy.

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    1. Different strokes for different folks. I am a google connect person through and through.

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  11. hmmn.... *scratches head*
    points noted.
    thanks ilola.

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  12. People call it blogging, I see as writing & I'm not bother if people read it or not. My blog is my journal & I write it for the future Me. If people comment or not it doesn't bother me & it shouldn't bother anyone. I do read a lot of blogs & comment only on the ones I have something meaningful to comtribute. And it should be that way.

    I have a lot to read everyday so I primarily follow blogs/news via their RSS feed, if the first 6 lines don't get my attention I ignore the post regardless if I know the author.

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    1. Yea, people blog for different reasons. For example, my own reasons for blogging years back is completely different from my reason now.

      As for the comment ones, not that it bothers anyone, I am talking about people that keep whining about the comments they are not getting, when they don't comment on others blogs.

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  13. Interesting perspective Atilola. I have always wondered too. There are some blogs I don't comment on (those are the marriage blogs I follow and most of them are not Nigerians). For the Nigerian blogs I read, I do my best to comment when I have something to say. Having the right blogtitude will sure help Blogsville grow and even more fun.

    - LDP

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    1. Abi naa. We feel your presence on blogsville sir.

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  14. lol this is so true. I try to comment on peoples blog though, but sometimes it is hard. anyways will do better especially since i am not a technology person. i always hate it when google or blogger changes something. Y cant they just leave it simple and let it be. thats always my question. lol.
    www.secretlilies.blogspot.com

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    1. I guess its because change is the only constant thing in life naa.

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  15. Very good point.. I probably used to comment a lot more before my personal laptop stopped working. My work laptop has all theses firewalls that makes leaving comments and even blogging frustrating but thankfully i have a new personal laptop.

    But you all have a point.. scratch my back genuinely I scratch yours.. especially with those with opening comments about comments and they leave none.

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    1. Yes oo, that is the annoying part. You complain, yet you don't do your part

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  16. lol.............as in........so true.
    do unto people what you want them to do to you

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  17. I'm with adebsrk on this, I see blogging as a long term affair so when I visit other blogs, I treat them like new friendships, you know how you meet people and you can decide if you'll be seeing them again or not depending on how you get on, while some blogs resonates with me, there are some that I don't find that interesting so I will not comment or follow, the same way I do not expect people who don't find my blog interesting to follow or comment. it's just one of those things I think, you don't like everyone just like everyone do not like you shay...

    www.bukkyapampa.com

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    1. As I said, people have different reasons for blogging.

      The 'please, follow me back's, and when you follow them back, that is the last you ever see them, those are the ones I am talking about.

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  18. Let me tell you know the one that kills me. Say i have just put up a funny post about Shit Business, literally o (as in igbe) then someone will now come with "Very lovely post. Could you talk more about this topic becase i find it interesting and you can follow me at bla bla bla"

    I just think: Really? You find shit interesting and want me to talk more about it? Really? Shoot me now please! (with a toy gun of course) O_O

    I understand that not all blogs resonate with me but i try my best.

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    1. Loooooolll. Toinlicious, you have come again oo. Kai, this woman.

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    2. Toin oooooooooooooo...LOOOOOL......u ds geh!!...you wont kill us with ur jokes
      so did someone actually ask that...literally??....sheesh..

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    3. When i bestowed Toin with the title of Onijogbon 1 of Blogsville, i actually was being real and not sarcastic. The geh wahala too much, imagine blogging about igbe with a straight face.

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    4. LOOOL....... toinlicous u are sooo funny..... i love u sweets..xxx

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  19. oh my, i guess i am with all those who say that blogging really is a journal for me and i blog for therapeutic reasons not really to get follower ship, that being said, i celebrate every comment and follower i receive,i am always surprised that people actually want to read what i write. i am guilty of not posting regularly ( sorry life gets in the way) and not commenting on some specific blogs, i might not comment if i am reading on the go, like i just scanned this post yday cos i was busy and came back to read properly today, or i might not comment if the post didn't resonate with me or if you have the verification thingy ( which i hate)...i am totally okay with following someone and they not following me back, its their perogative and i wont follow you if i what you write does not resonate with me, even if you follow me..

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    1. Of course, people will comment on your blog naa, especially when you comment on people's own. After all, we are all humans and can relate to what you are blogging about.

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  20. I agree with N.I.L...Most times I read blogs on the go, which leaves not much time to comment while other times its becomes like a newspaper that I dnt want to say anything for now..

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    1. If you don't wanna say anything, then don't. I think its better that way sef, before someone starts misyarning, lol. Abi, what do you think?

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  21. The word verification thing is verrrry discouraging...Some of those words I cant see clear and after 3 tries, I get frustrated and forget it..

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    1. Loool. If I want to comment, I comment. Word verification is annoying, but I still brave it and comment.

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  22. I am so coming late to this interesting topic!
    So, where do i start from?

    You said it was in your draft for the past 5months?..hmmm, means it bothered you as much as it did to me and i tried to press it down so that it won't look as if i am 'whining.'

    First point..i also have wondered why some bloggers don't reciprocate the gesture. hence, i don't bother to go back the second time! Blogsville is a give and take....you scratch my back, i scratch yours shikenah! :D

    Followers...as a new blogger, i followed so many blogs and even commented on them several times, but many never returned the gesture. As i grew older, i follow any new blog that comments in my post, but learnt later, as you said, they will stop coming immediately you follow back. When i notice such, i remove them from my blog roll! And i don't rush again to follow blogs UNLESS, i like it and simply copy the URL to read at my leisure, but it will not be in my visible blog roll! afterall, cunning man die, cunning man go bury am abi?..ahahahahah

    The goggle follower's gadget...hmmm, me think, some bloggers don't want to know the number of followers so as not to discourage them from writing or other people that might visit the blog or they are writing for their own pleasure and don't care to know who follow them or they don't want to be seen as 'new' which puts people off or some don't even know about it. For instance, only 3 followers for the past 6months, it gives off a kind of 'bad aura-unpopular' but if the number is like 300, wow! it will show the blog is popular, and people like to always belong...Please my assumptions oo, you know say over-sabi nah my problem..ehehehehe.

    yes! it baffles me when i will see many followers but the comment so minimal. I came to realized the people don't comment in others because, after several times of commenting in the person's blog without feed back from them in their own blog and in mine, i go just kukuma, arrange myself and waka comot abeg! nah who send me message..ahahahahaha.

    ha! the entertainment blogs with the irresistible amebo news, then people go dey form say dem no like gist? abeggyy! The blog gives people chance to say what they want. Such blogs are for money making, so anything is allowed which people like, which increases the rating. if one comments with their blog's name, it might discourage people from visiting their blogs if they don't like their comments. I learnt that the hard way. I now keep my comment to myself and read for pleasure, afterall, the host does not have your time.

    Ha! the verification thing, i now agree with sting and DOHK who asked me to remove it from my blog when i came back from my 'break'. That thing is so annoying o! jeez! i thank my commenters who were patient with me before i removed it. I tried 4 times in one blog, that i said to myself not again! shioo!...ahaahahahaha. But it was not like this before nah. It amuses me when i see new blogs having word verification when they have not broken the ice first. That is enough to discourage people from commenting who don't have the patience.

    Ha! i have a post in your comment box, longer than your post sef! na wa for me! i no tell u say, nah over sabi be my problem before?..#laughing#

    Oh! before i forget, some don't comment in blogs again if they don't like the comment of a visiting blogger.I have being a victim and also done the same for some blogs because i no want wahala...the cyber-enemies i don get, don do me abeg.....ahehehehehehhahaha.

    gudnite ooo..pls overlook all my typos o! :D

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    1. LMAOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!...
      simply meee!!!!!!!.....always on point!!!
      one would be thinking you're a psychic if no be say na God pikin u be oooo...hehehehehe...u ehnn..
      i gbadun ur comment o jere,

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    2. Simply meee, where would I start from, with this lengthy post you have written?

      I must comment, I unfollowed some people in the past, cos I kept going back to their blog over and over again, but my presence was unacknowledged, not even on their blog. The reason is because I wanted to concentrate on the friendly bloggers, who were even a lot for me, so I didn't want to add too much to my plate.

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  23. http://splittingissues.blogspot.co.uk/September 5, 2012 at 7:22 PM

    In addition to all the other comments, I would like to add that sometimes, you don't have the words to express how you feel about a post. It hits all the right spots; it's profound but the words in your head seem so trite...so you don't comment. It feels to you like whatever you say will appear 'cheap' and contrived.

    Like Jemima above, some of us blog as a way of putting our thoughts down coherently...we are not exactly expecting a response; although it's pleasantly surprising when we do. Having said that, there is a point to being polite enough in acknowledging other people's work...but again only if you choose to do so.

    Nice one Atilola...


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    1. Yea true, but its not always the case. One cannot be speechless all the time.

      Thanks for dropping by.

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  24. Nice post, though I am late. I think sson after I began blogging, blogtitude began to change as people moved to twitter. Commenting and community was more back then and that was when I imbibed it. It's still hard for me to stop now even though I have so many blogs who comment on mine and I wish to reciprocate. For me, that is the beauty of blogging.

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    1. Yea, myne. Twitter and blogger serve two different purposes. If one wants to rant, twitter is the perfect place.

      Besides, I don't expect someone like you to follow everyone back o, you might not live to tell the story, lol.

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  25. Thank God I 'stumbled' in here...especially after recently reading something about Blog Etiquette by the DNW..
    I find that I am learning many things from the 'bigger' bloggers like Myne and DNW with whom I have a relationship even though we have NEVER met, not even the DNW who is at my backyard!. I strongly believe in follower-ship being intimate and family-like! We also mustn't fall into the 'deceit' of only commenting on blogs because we crave their comments on ours. The 'relationship' has to be meaningful...I must believe in, have a thought on what I am reading to comment on it. Which is why the reason for being a (public) follower on someone's blog should be well thought out first...I blogged on '(Don't) Rub My Back' a while back..lets not do tit for tat, let our reasons be genuine. I also agree that it is rude to 'un-follow'. There are times I want to hide from someone on twitter and I find it so difficult, and that is from a 'Be Free oh' proponent o. I once accepted a request on twitter because I loved the person's profile, then sent her a direct message to to thank her for following, and to chat about something on her profile we had in common, she never responded, I also RT to her tweets, no response, I unapologetically un-followed, without guilt. Meaningful relationship, meaningful, partout; be it on the internet or in real life situations.
    Thanks for this, while I still have 22 followers, a few of them bloggers, I had better learn to well...well done, fellow bloggers!!!
    By the way, splittingissues above has a point as well!

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    1. Thanks for coming by, and dropping a long and interesting comment. I unfollow people at times, when they start blogging about things that don't edify me, like their sexcapades, etc. Then, I know its time to leave. Time is money, and I wanna spend it wisely.

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  26. I comment on almost every bog I visit but that doesn't mean they comment on mine. Nice post between, I just found your blog for the first time :)

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    1. Aww, thanks for dropping by. I hope you are not bored with my blog.

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  27. interesting post...i dont even know where to start on this...i have had my issues with "commenting" on blogs but i have come to make peace with it

    I don't necessary comment on all blogs I follow or every post i read ..and i know i have followers that dont comment. but yah it can be annoying sometimes when you always comment on a particular blog and they never comment on yours..but oh well..you can't force it can you.

    which leads me to something that used to annoy me on twitter...you follow someone, reply their questions or RT them and they don't even acknowledge... now i don't even bother and i have come to realise one thing- aloted don't take it personal!

    life is too short jare

    all that said- for those begging for comments, i have one advice- comment and it shall come back to you, full measure, press down shaken together and over flowing... ;)

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    1. Hmmm, lemme better go and thank all the people that retweet me on twitter, before they vex, like you.

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    2. hehehehehe..u are not serious o..no wonder i got ur thank u DM ..i was wondering what that was about till i read this comment. lol

      i wasn't referrng to you o.lol.

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    3. I agree with aloted. I too felt that way. Maybe its my posts, they are not inspiring enough for some readers. But I am grateful to key readers and commentators on my blogs its really encouraging. I remember some bloggers that came to visit during my early days to comment (which I felt were encouraging) and suddenly stopped. Although, I tried commenting on theirs and even asked them why they havnt visited "no answer". I began to realise maybe its all in my head and I should chill.

      So yes @ailola u were one of the bloggers that came to visit me in the early days and you mentioned I should follow you, you also left your link. I did follow you and no reciprocate since. In a way, I was a little upset and to an extent I came up with a bunch of reasons maybe my post are not your thing but sha i renewed my mind. oh well...it is what it is.... lol (i sound so mushy now). I will let it go.... hehe

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    4. @ Daughter of Her King: Lol, don't be angry with me, I visited your blog, followed, and commented and commented. I unfollowed you, and it was deliberate on my path. I did it because I was following a lot of people that were not following back, and reading their blog was eating into my time, I could hardly keep up. I decided to concentrate fully on people that followed me back. Maybe you later followed back, but it must have been much much later that I did not notice.

      So the reason why I didn't drop by your blog is because I actually unfollowed you.

      I am hereby repenting and now following you back

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    5. You see this is exactly the problem I have. Following only those who comment or follow you.

      People will get upset it is only natural. I get upset sometimes. A very good example - I follow this blogger An Eccentric Great Naija Man, I find him funny & insightful and I comment on his blog but I have never seen him on my blog (i.e through comments) not even to say hello o, thanks for stopping by my blog o.

      So its either he stops by and doesn't comment or he doesn't stop by at all. Is it upsetting? yes. Is it possible that my posts don't resonate with him? Yes

      So what can a girl do? Either continue to follow and comment cuz I enjoy his posts or get angry and stop following.

      I can't start analyzing why everyone I follow isn't following back.

      Let's not even talk about those following me that I don't follow back for one reason or the other. Time is my main issue.

      Either way WHO CARES! We can't please everyone. Everyone can't please us. Life moves on

      ooohh, I said I didn't want to start on this commenting ish! I can write a book on it! phew.

      Drops mic.

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    6. @tiola I appreciate the apology and sincerity. Funny enough, I did read your posts and enjoyed as well and I fell back because I wasnt feeling the love not knowing that it was what you felt as well. I was also keen to get behind your promotional campaign for the novel but I kinda felt maybe she wont like it ohh, lol. Let me just do jeje. It was of recent when I saw ur comment on a blog (cant remember)but I told myself a) I dont want to beef you so warraa heck b) I should be mature and not take it personal/lighten up. Hence, I could not resist I had to come and visit...

      Thank you for the clarity, much appreciated and much respected.

      Thank you for following me back and @ aloted I agree but you cant help it sometimes I guess. lol. xxx

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    7. @ aloted: We are all human beings with feelings, I understand

      @ DOHK: Lol, who doesn't like free campaign. You can still do it now o, I no run

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  28. Bloggers seem to be the worst class of Visitors a fellow blogger can have visiting his or her site.
    Bloggers can hardly click ads on ones site, comment on ones blog and link back to ones blog.

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  30. I'm guilty small sha, but I try to comment, I honestly do **left hand raised in humble oath**

    but then I'm only following like 6 blogs right now soooooo....

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  31. I honestly prefer no comment than someone who will something like 'nice post, very interesting' and they have not read a line of the article.
    I rather have four comments from people who have genuinely read my post than having a bunch of meaningless comments.

    But I do get what you mean it is rather annoying, another thing that does me head in is when I get a comment saying follow for a follow. I publish the comment, but i never follow..

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    1. Hmm, I get your perspective. More quality than quantity.

      Hmm, I have followed everyone who followed me in the past. But now, I believe that the motive behind why they follow me becomes obvious when they never come to the blog again.

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  32. Perhaps I'm the voice of dissent here, dear Atilola, - I think people should do whatever they feel comfortable with. Life is stressful enough. There are enough rules and conventions to follow in the real world that it might not be fair to expect the same online. Apart from being civil to each other as far as reason, commonsense and decency allows for, I think people should be allowed their freedom to do as they please oh.

    That's my two kobo sha:)

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    1. Ah maa, No o. No one is trying to state rules here. I am referring to people who complain that they never get comments, when they do not even comment on people's blogs.

      If one is so bothered about comments that they even openly beg for it, then they should comment too naa

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  33. LOL@Toin and her shit talk.
    personally i would summarise blogtitude as and do unto others as you want them to do unto you.
    But then again getting plenty comments is also about content and marketing. I think if one really wants more comments one should seek a larger audience through other media outlets. eg. Myne, Sisi Yemmie have a good balance of bloggers and non bloggers reading their blog. Great!!
    Linda doesnt need blogging community comments :P

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    1. Yea. Content is very important too, but that's more to attract non-bloggers. In this post, I am referring to mainly blogsville.

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  34. Hi,
    I'm relatively new to blogsville and terms like RSS feed, google Connect etc are relatively new to me.
    I stumbled on your blog cos I can't sleep and its inspired me to take blogging seriously.
    Going through ur comments I see there is some kind of blogger community which is very cute and remarkable I don't know how the following thing goes but please anyone follow me ild bookmark ds page and ff back as soon as I get a hold of it,​⌣˚Ʈ♓ªƞƘ ♧ ƔoƱ˚⌣•.

    http://mythotsonpaper.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

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    1. Yes o, there's a very strong blog community amongst Nigerians. It is very real. The more you visit people's blogs, the more they get to know you and interact with you.

      I have visited your blog. You can begin by installing the Google follow button as a side gadget, so people can keep up with you.

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  35. What else can I say? A lot has been said already.

    All in all, we all should improve on our blogtitude, shikena!

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  36. I also read blogs and most times don't leave comments.....not because I dont want to but because sometimes I will be repeating what someone else has already commented about.
    My blog is my diary.....it is me putting my thoughts into words, it is self healing for me.....though I have to confess that at times having people drop a line would go a long way to help reassure me that someone, somewhere,cares

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    1. Yea true. Comments encourage bloggers. It shows that there are humans actually reading your blog.

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  37. Wow. I came here to thank you for making your book available for download (for free too) only to stumble upon this post. I just finished reading it and my lady, you are witty! Thank God you're Nigerian...we rep! lol

    On this issue I agree with you but one thing that puts most bloggers off hence their hesitation to comment on other blogs is too much whining without substance. People want to be inspired, people want to laugh and cry with you but only if you actually have information to give.

    The only reason I will comment on a blog with a melancholic tone is if some posts resonate with my sufferings at that moment. If I can relate to your rant about exaggerated hamburger billboards my friend I will over-comment! My little cents o! Hehe :)

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    1. Eeya, glad you enjoyed the book.

      Yea, I believe if you post quality stuffs, people will comment.

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  38. Well, to add to the 80 something comments already (phew, Attygeh, you wrote about something almost everybody had on their minds but are forming too nice to voice out), my take on it is simply this. Monkey no fine but him mama like am,pardon the vernacular, everybody wants to be appreciated. Its a basic human feeling to have(except you are a weird fellow like me). I started my blog simply because i wanted to have somewhere i could unload my various personae without loosing the basics..

    Like i wrote on my profile, my take on life is that what people do not understand, they tag so if you visit my page by mistake and like it, all well and good, if you do not like it, its still all well and good.I read in a blog manual that if you want visitors and comments, you have to do likewise but i laff in Mandarin when i see it being used on pop blogs like Linda's or Ladun's and bloggers go like pls visit my blog like they are seeking attention...Just my curios thots...

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    1. True oo. I did not expect this load of comments on this post. I actually thought people will be angry and not comment, but I just decided to brave it.

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  39. Oopp/Kia, wahliah I didn't know I was not following oh. If anything I was certain you were one of the first bloggers I followed afterwards.

    But sha maybe I unfollowed (which is very rare) but I am now following. I AM NOW THE 170 member so my guguru, epa, dundun and akra my ways ohh.lol..

    xx

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    1. Loooll. I don't think you ever followed. I check every one of my followers blogs once they comment. Come to my house, and I will dash you Ewa Aganyin. lool

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  40. Very true, its the same ol' principle.....give n it will come back to you...*now singing Ron Kenoly*


    Good to be back here :)

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    1. Christian sister! Loool. Where have you been?

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  41. Lmao Toin and this same shit talk. Yes oh, when you give, you receive. You can't just receive without giving.

    I'm sometimes guilty of not making comments,especially when I'm reading out of a small screen and there are times I don't even have time to enter blogger at all. Anyways I'm a student. But when I'm here, I try my best to make comments because I love receiving comments too.

    Oh word verification annoys me so much. I just had one encounter now, I failed the verification 3 times. I just closed the page jare. I tire!!

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    1. Using student as an excuse abi? Ok oo, we understand, especially if you are studying a killer course.

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  42. It was a great story!. I enjoy reading your story very interesting!.. good work!.
    Kizi 3 | Friv 5 | gazo

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