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This is not fiction.
My family moved to a 3-bedroom flat on
the street I currently stay, two weeks before my second birthday. Almost all
the houses in the estate were storey buildings of several 3-bedroom flats.
However, there was this building that looked out of place in the estate. It was
the only unpainted building, and the only face to face building.
At about five years old, I was already
conscious of the difference in our status in life. My friends and I referred to
the kids living in that house as 'children of the uncompleted building’. It
wasn’t that the building wasn’t completed, but for us, the building just looked
to out of place for us to see it as ‘complete’.
We went to private schools, there barely
made it through public schools, we went to universities, they learnt trades or
became miscreants. We had cars, they did not. We gossiped about them, they
gossiped about us. We said they were unruly, they said we were proud. That was
the normal life we lived.
It was Blessing I first heard the word
'Bad Generation' from. I don’t know how the name came about, but I think her
family must have started referring to ‘children of the uncompleted building’ as
the Bad Generation kids, because of the little mischief the caused here and
there. They played on the streets, their clothes were dirty, they rolled
bicycle tyres with sticks, they could not speak English, they talked without
respect, etc. So I guess no one argued when they heard them being referred to
as the Bad Generation kids.
Before long, this name caught flame in
the mouth of every single person in the estate. They were no longer the ‘children
of the uncompleted building’. They were Bad Generation, everyone’s father
called them Bad Generation, everyone’s mother called them Bad Generation, every
single person called them Bad Generation. It was their label, it was normal. Whether
the bad generation kids were aware that we called them by this name, I am not
sure. Even if they knew, I am not sure they would have understood the meaning
of the name.
My estate was quite peaceful and free of
violence and the likes. This is because, when I was young, there was a period
when armed robbers tried tormenting my estate, so our parents formed a
vigilante. Our fathers had guns, and they took rounds to protect the estate. If
a thief was caught, he was shot in the leg and then handed over to the police.
No arguments! After a while, robbers never came to the area. They were scared
of my estate.
By the time we were teenagers, some of
the Bad Generation kids dropped out of secondary school. Blessing and her
family moved to their house in Ikorodu. Ada, my second friend, moved out of
area with her family and later moved to their own house. A lot of my childhood
friends left the area. But not my family... my father built a fourteen bedroom
mansion directly opposite the three bedroom flat we lived, and so unlike my
friends and their families, I was stuck on my street, at least, until a man
decided to change my surname and move me out of my father’s house.
But....
Many fathers moved out of the area, the
former landlords we met there grew very old. There were only two middle aged
landlords. My father and a man we called Mr Glory. Because of this inevitable occurrence,
the vigilante started losing its protective hold over the estate.
At this time... the Bad Generation kids had
grown. For most of them, they had turned out to be bad, just like we had spoken
negatively into their lives. Their numbers had increased, because they had
brought friends of theirs to live with them. Some of them became vocational
workers, some of them became miscreants, one of them was a confirmed armed
robber, none of them was educated. But at least, my estate was still peaceful. Then...
My father died... mid age...
My house is like this very big dead
house. Loads and loads of rooms, with no one to sleep in them. I live in the
house with my mother, brother and sister. My mother gets home earliest, which
is 7.00pm. The rest of us start getting home around 10.00pm. We live in a
monumental waste. The Bad Generation kids cramp themselves in their face to
face rooms, rooms smaller than the smallest room in my house, approximately
about seven people in each. The gap between my family and theirs has grown wider
over the years but no one blinks at this. It was normal. We all kept minding
our businesses.
After my dad’s death, this left Mr Glory
to protect the area. Somehow, the new set of young fathers who had moved to the
estate were not as active as our fathers had been. Maybe it is because thought they
had nothing to fear.
Mr Glory had seven children, but one of
them refused education and home training, and turned out to be a thorn in his
flesh. He became just like the Bad Generation kids, caused problem for his
family, smoked weed, destroyed his father’s properties, beat people up and did
every kind of bad thing one can think of. No one said anything, it was not our
problem, it was Mr Glory’s problem and he would do well to sort it out. Then
again...
Mr Glory died... mid age...
The Bad Generation have multiplied...
they torment the estate. They organised robbers to steal the cars of estate
residents. After the incident, guns and hard drugs were found in the building
beside Mr Glory’s, something that could never have happened if Mr Glory were
alive. We now live in fear, the cause of our insecurities resides with us, but
there is nothing we can do about it for now.
In the past, when we were young, we
laughed at them, we called them names, they were the Bad Generation kids, we
were the good ones. Now we have grown, we are educated, we have good jobs, we
have cars. They torment us, rob us and steal our cars. It seems the sins of our
past have caught up with us... poke their fingers in our eyes... laugh at us...
right in our faces.
* The name of Mr Glory has been changed
to protect the identity of the person
Inequality, the bane of society. In America, the protests last year gave it a slogan, 99% or the Haves and Have-nots. Unfortunately for the people in your estate, you have the poor right in your midst, other 'haves' make sure their gated communities are very far from such 'have-nots'. Well, though it is late in the day, I think you still can do something. Some may move with the LGA to demolish and chase them away. Or you may open your doors and hearts to them. Give them some fish, or teach them how to fish.
ReplyDeleteWow, this is some serious community serious community service stuff you are suggesting. But I give the work to do oo. We allow the carpenters among them to do stuffs in our house, when we need repairs. *covers face*
DeleteThis story rings a bell...it is sad what our society is turning into. Yet they are the bad generation, I feel some where the good generation failed them and actually expected them to turn out like this.
ReplyDeleteThe good generation, also failed to protect its future self from the bad generation.
This is really sad.
Hmmm! How far can we go to protect ourselves? If we keep breeding the 'bad generation', it will get to a point when the protection will fail. Thanks for dropping by.
DeleteThis is such a dicey situation. I can definitely relate to this as my father's first house was built amidst so much poverty and illiteracy.The flip side was we were in the minority; our own bad generation kids outnumbered us from the get go and my mother was very vigilant in ensuring we didn't 'play with them so they won't spoil your English'. This is the society we live in where we all tend to look the other way and prevent our kids from socializing with people we see as undesirables. But the conclusion of your story is what happens at the end of the day; the undesirables grow up and become thorns in our sides.
ReplyDeleteLol at 'spoil your english'.
DeleteThe conclusion is always inevitable.
Blessings.....
ReplyDeleteSelf-fulfilling prophecy, these children were wrongly labelled, demonized and demoralized because of their lack of socio-economic status. Classism and its insidiousness notions of superiority that allow us to belief because we are better off financially it means we are better human beings. A person is not bad because of their social status or lack there of they are bad people based on the character they cultivate and the choices they make. Hence it can happen in families of any socio-economic status. Rich, poor, middle class. The young son in Mr. Glory's family is a prime example. The deterioration of the estate is not only the responsibility of the ones who commit the crimes but also of the ones "good ones" who sit and do nothing, for it is said, "evil flourishes when good men do nothing."
The fact is some great people come from the poorest background. Some bad people come from wealthy backgrounds. Badness is not a determinant of poverty neither is goodness an determinant of wealth.
No one is blameless in this scenario for each has played a part in the state of things, the deaths of the great men (your father/mr. Glory) who maintained the peace is prove of that for when the lord took them home no one was willing to rise up and continue the fight. Instead they all laid back and now all the work that they have done, all the fight that they have fought is for not.
stay blessed.
rhapsody
Agree with you Rhapsody.
DeleteNobody is to be blamed...being poor or uneducated is no excuse to turn out bad!
There are atimes, i don't blame people when they decide to live in a certain area,no matter how expense it is, because of security and living with their 'kind'! They say, it is not good to be a big fish in a small pond, it attracts too much attention
I grew up in an area mixed with both the good and bad generation, which my parents regret so much because it was a new site then,didn't know some tenement landlords bought land there also... they have experienced 3 armed robbery incidents! I have a very STRONG dislike for this so-called 'bad generation', they are a NUISANCE to the society and a pain in the ass! ..i own no one an apology!
The ROOT of the problem is people breeding like chickens! They can barely survive but give birth to so many children! mscheww!
Agree with Rhapsody and Simply Mee
DeleteThis is an example of Self fulfilling prophecy in action
Also, people breeding like chickens doesn't help. However, I believe that any society that has a huge gap between rich and poor is asking for trouble. We cant all be equal but we should have access to basic needs - education, electricity, water and health....
Blatant inequality is why we had the riots here and it is why we are having kidnappers etc in Naija.
'A hungry dog is likely to bite its owner'
@ Rhapsody: The thing there is that their social status made them cultivate bad habits. I agree that we are all to blame. But why is it that its the poor in Nigeria that procreate like goats? Spoken like a sage, as usual.
Delete@ simple mee: She meant we are all to be blamed o, lol. I agree with the ROOT you mentioned. Such an irony
@ Naijamum: Kai, that your proverb makes sense o. So we should feed the dog? What if the dog is the irresponsible one?
sex is the poetry of the poor
Deleteno other means to relax but procreate like chickens lol
Wow!!! most of us are guilty of the giving labels and snobbery :(
ReplyDeletejust points out how a little love can change the world.
Wow, that hit hard. But we were just kids, we weren't being snobs o, I think.
DeleteI''m trying to imagine if the families of those on the streets took it upon themselves to give of their resources (training, time, money, advice, etc) to these young children what would have happened? Would the children have turned out better? Maybe and most likely. Would some parents have taken advantage of or not appreciated the efforts? Maybe too but more unlikely. it's actually easier to distance ourselves from what seems different than to embrace it and find out why the difference. Things may or may not have changed had people taken interest in these kids but most times giving makes a difference. Time has passed and all and i'm not sure if the present occupants of the buildings on the street will appreciate the history or be willing to get involved in the lives of these young people. But as Myne said, it's never really late. I doubt though if the building can be demolished since it's legit. The lesson here is that what you think may not affect you in the morning may eventually become a thorn in your flesh at night.
ReplyDeleteNo we did not do that (give them our time). They are the ones that do our menial jobs.
DeleteThose people are adults with minds of their own now oo. It will be hard to fo anything again
Our past we neglected now haunts our future. Fiction or not, this is pure reality you depicted here. I still believe something can be done in this case and in every other similar case.
ReplyDeleteYep, its not fiction and its reality. I don't think much can be done.
DeleteRhapsody spoke my mind.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is, those things we feel do not concern us, most times have a way of coming back to bite us in the behind.
On the other hand though, sad as it might sound, I sure would have protected my kids from the so called "bad generation" as well, I guess this is one mentality we need to address in our society. Its about time we start making efforts to give back to our society, no matter how small.
True! Ignoring the problem doesn't mean solving it.
Deleteumm, this is so real, the stuff life is made up of, who do we blame really?
ReplyDeleteWe are all to blame, especially the poor that breed like dogs.
DeleteI was thinking about some stuff like these the other day. We blame armed robbers, prostitutes and think of ways to prosecute them but we fail to recognize that those homeless kids on our streets today will try to find their way if no one offers them one and it'll most likely be an 'any means just to survive'. Usually these miscreants are the ones that are even more generous to reach out to them and offer them a way to survive like they did.
ReplyDeleteI mean who'd prefer to kill others for a living? It is someone that has learnt to escape the claws of death.
If only our leaders can understand that they play a principal part in what Nigeria will be in the future just like our past leaders contributed to what it has turned out to be today. I hope God always directs us to make right decisions.
So sad to hear about what you have to go through. It is not easy having to live in fear at all.
What you mentioned here is the problem of our system. One day, some people will get fed up and haunt these leaders down.
Deletewow!!!!....what can i say but i guess its true but what are we to do.
ReplyDeleteummm...Bad generation Kids...we might not know it but we humans have a way of classifying people unconsciously in our minds and should i say thats how we were built or what we've made ourselves become in this present world even when we can stop that judgemental attitude. it has become part of us we even do it unconsciously. we see a woman packing her natural hair without make up and We say she's deeper life or SU...not even giving heed that she might be doing it personally for "her" own reasons...we see some children speaking only their mother tongue(prob yoruba or ibo all the time and we're like..#frown#...who is this local person..LOOL...as if this isn't the country where we were raised
i often wonder if a latino or a french speaking person would rather cling with english than what he was actually brought up with. they speak it so proudly and some Nigerians have even found their language more "sexy" in quote.
its amazing how we are but i believe We can make a change if we are willing to...
first of all, by trying to know how it feels and helping out in whatever way we can
it starts from Us
nice post atilola
Yea, some of us can be judgemental. But that wasn't the case here o. These kids were actually baaad. Our fault is that we actually labelled them.
DeleteOh wow, the irony! Life is crazy and as much as everyone is responsible, one way or the other, it takes the grace of God to make bold moves like breaking barriers. I pray He keeps your family safe and opens your heart to His will
ReplyDeleteAmen to your prayers for me oo.
DeleteSelf fulfilling prophecy at work. They must have heard the name they were called. I pray the by-stander's effect doesn't not dig roots in our culture all in the name of 'It's not happening to me, so it doesn't concern me'. We do have a culture that helps one another, hope we don't loose it.
ReplyDeleteNaa, I don't think they know but I am not sure. I don't think we have a culture that helps one another in Lagos ooo. You are basically on your own.
DeleteI interpreted bad generation into yoruba "omo irankiran" right? Hmmm, I'm painting a picture of your write up in my mind.
DeleteAnd what can I say? I just pray God continually keeps you and your safe. But can't the police come to your rescue...yea remind me this is Nigeria. God help us o!
dayor: Noo ooo. That translation is not correct. 'irankiran' means bad vision. Bad generation is when a whole generation or set of people are bad.
DeleteWhen you don't have proof, it is best not to get the police involved.
This is the sad reality of our lives.
ReplyDeleteSad Reality
DeleteThis is deep and true and I really see why the rich try to huddle together. I only wish something had been done early enough but "the poor would always be with us" (Bible verse) so really I don't know.
ReplyDeleteBUT I know that it starts with one person at a time. My heart desire is to educate at least one other child apart from my children. So help me God.
I pray God grants you your heart desires. That is so cool and I might just follow suit
DeleteShaking my head as I read this and hoping its not too late to change things. I think you guys need a 'sovereign street conference'. seriously. A pity the last of the old guards is gone but maybe it is even better for a new resident to be the spokesman. He wont be associated with old bitterness. It shouldn't be a 'you guys are thieves' kind of talk. It should be how can we make our streets safer. let everyone's opinion be heard. I hear of places where the 'armed robber' takes on the role of security guard wholeheartedly and 'does it well'. it would also create an avenue for you to sow into their lives. Be it painting their buildings or fixing their toilets or paying for a child's education.
ReplyDeleteI could have waxed lyrical as usual, but i have faith in you @ilola. That you can start/do something. Try.
I think my reply is a bit disjointed..i just meant that through the meetings the two sides can meet and help each other.
DeleteLol, there is so much fire on the mountain now, that they have started holding series of meetings, though I don't attend, my brother does.
DeleteThanks for having faith in me o, that's a really strong thing.
Your reply was not disjointed, I understood perfectly. Thanks
It's all been said. This is so real though and sad
ReplyDeleteAbi ooo
DeleteLife & Living it,It all begins at home..
ReplyDeleteTrue word!
Deleteso they grew up to become the bad generation, i wish they had proved people wrong and turn out better than people thought. sad. there are so many lessons that can be learnt from this.
ReplyDeleteNooo o, they did not prove us wrong o. They were already acting in bad ways while they were young, thus the label. It would have been reall surprising if they turned out good.
DeleteThe reality is that some people are not equipped to deal with what life throws at them for all sorts of reason. If we ever find ourselves in a position to support the weak and vulnerable in our midst then that's the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteTrue. I did not see it that way oo.
DeleteNaija4life really spoke well oh. That's the least we can do. Its unfortunate that the situation has gotten out of hand.
DeleteI had an unruly relative one. Like a 'bad generation' type of child until he was killed, we didnt realise how bad the situation was. *sigh*
Mamuje: So so sad. I wish he turned a new leaf and did not have to die
DeleteWow. Like Wow. Like...I need to write on my blog now.
ReplyDeleteLol. Is it about this?
DeleteI've been reading your blog for so long & I've loved it BUT never until I read this post did I realise I sorta know you.
DeleteReally? It would be an interesting coincidence if it happens to be true.
DeleteI don't think the "good generation" had any role in this one. This is not really about labels and what not. From what I understand, these kids have been bad that's why they were given the tag "bad generation". Poverty doesn't mean one must turn out to be a torn in the flesh or a miscreant. This stems from home training joh, I don't think the children were wrongly labelled, this label was as a result of their "bad behaviour" not because of their status.
ReplyDeleteLike stelz said I wonder if the parents of these kids, ever gave them the time of the day, maybe advice, training, the little resources they had, etc. Because from what it looks like the only thing the parents did was give birth to them and then they allowed them "grow" without direction. You don't have to be educated, rich, etc. to be of "good generation" these people just lacked home training. As humans we are supposed to be taught what is good and what is bad and at the end of the day we choose what we want to be "good" or "bad" and strive to make it so. Just like Mr. Glory's son, he was taught what is good and what is bad so he knew the difference but yet he still chose to be bad but those "bad generation" kids were never taught the difference between good and evil, they were never directed and so they grew with the easier norm in the society, evil. And yes it's way easier to be evil than be good.
Unfortunately this is what our society is like. If only the government plays their role in providing security, we would be at least 90% safe from these miscreants but since the government doesn't play their role, we are left to face them on our own, we live in fear. Someone like me, my Dad built a new house, painted the interior and refused to paint outside and what was his reason, he didn't want the house to look attractive and be a focus for robbery and all sorts. That is how we live in Nigeria, we live in fear sadly this fear is of the "KNOWN"
Chai I didn't even know I wrote an essay *hides face*
DeleteLol, I don't mind essays on my blog.
DeleteYou have a point. They had started behaving badly before we labelled them. But the issue is that it was the way we expected them to turn out that they eventually turned out.
Na wa oo. Your dad practically lived in fear, just like many of our parents. So so so sad.
Hmmmm. Touching tale. The issue of inequality would always remain with us but then, it shouldn't necessarily result to segregation or labelling of people who happen to be in an unfortunate situation or a lower social status. This is one of the major reasons why our country is the way it is today. Someday, the so-called 'bad generation' would revolt and turn on the ones who made them feel inferior. Nice story. Is it really a true story though? *winks*
ReplyDeleteTrue. Our fault here was the labelling. It doesn't always turn out well in the end
DeleteHmmm...food for thought. You've painted naija as it really is. Until we know the true meaning of loving our neighbours as ourselves and pass those values on to our children, our country will never be rid of this 'bad generation' aka the underclass.
ReplyDeleteYes ooo. You are right
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