Journey to marriage 1 - One Year Marriage Miracle?

Hello everyone. How's everything? I feel like I have so much to say, but hesitant to say them. Over the past few years of my life, I've been extremely cautious about what I put in this blog about my personal life, knowing I'm not an anonymous blogger. I guess I stopped being bold like Berry Dakara and Sisi Yemmie, somewhere along the way.

The truth is that this blog will be changing sometime soon. It's about to get personal. The way my life used to be is coming to an end very soon. There are some changes happening that I might not necessarily like and welcome, but are necessary, so I guess I have no choice but to accept the change. One thing is sure, by the time this year is over, things would be completely different from how I started this year.

This brings me to my muse

Have you heard of the one year marriage miracle?

It means you meet someone, start dating, make the decision to marry, and then marry the person, all in one year.

The first time I heard about someone marrying a person he/she never knew under a year, I was sceptical. I mean my ideal time for courtship was 2 years. I was young, with lesser responsibilities, enough time, starry eyed, believed more in man's strategy than God's plan, and so on and on and on.

But a year or two ago, when 1 + the one blogged about it from one of those Christian relationship blogs, featuring a couple, I began to see it in a different light. Maybe it was because I was older this time with a great wilderness experience in my portfolio. I wished it would happen to me, but it never did. Such things are not forced. It is pure divine arrangement.

If there's someone who enjoyed singleness, that person is me, which is strange, as my plan was to get married at 24. But as it stands, I rocked the life out of singleness. I ran businesses, organised events, travelled the world without a care, and I'm still doing these things. In fact, I became so comfortable in my singleness that my only worry was how I would be able to adjust when I'm getting married, since I have become so set in my ways.

Enjoying the single life without a care
I was enjoying my single life, and the only way I was going to give it up was if the person was really worth it. No one is chasing me from my father's house. I have my office, my room, food, house helps, everything to make my life comfortable, so I would not even lend an ear to the pressure to get married, talk less of succumbing to it. It didn't help the case for singleness that I kept looking younger by the day. Some of the things I alwatys say to myself, even till now is.






It was obvious. I would rather die in my singleness, that get married to the wrong person out of pressure.

I wanted to get married alright, but my eventual choice had to be worth the wait, so I enjoyed my life in peace, and kept running businesses, organising events, and travelling the world without a care.

But now...

All that has changed

I am getting married... All in a year.



To be honest, I am sceptical about sharing this journey here, especially because of monitoring spirits on social media, but I will brave it and do so.

What changed? How did we meet? How did my status change in just one year? The journey of courtship. Doubts and Struggles. Becoming a wife.

Let's keep it a date here every Monday. What do you guys think? Do you look forward to reading about this new phase of my life? Talk o, before I become a hermit again. Lol.




58 comments

  1. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh, congrats luv! i for one will be visiting for the updates lol

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    1. Awww thank you. :) also drop comments

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  2. Congratulations, I am so happy for you, God bless you and yours, Amen.

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    1. Amen. Thank you. God bless you too

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  3. Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!! Congratulations. I'm 101% in. I will not miss a single Monday and I'm sure there are many more MEs out there. It would be refreshing to see things from your perspective since expressing these kinda things are not quite typical here. Congrats again!

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    1. Thank you. I will try my best to break the shell. Would love to see your perspective from your comments too.

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  4. congratulations!!!! :) I look forward to reading your posts.

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  5. Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!! You know I am probably screaming the loudest right???? LOLL

    Oh, I can not miss Mondays' post lai lai!! WHoop whooop!! Me I believe in the God of 1 year marriage miracle! I have seen too many GREAT testimonies for me not to believe.. One minute you're single, the next you're in white in front of a Pastor with a groom (great one at that!) too! Hehehe
    Thank you for this beautiful message about singlehood too. Loved it, loved it! Definitely sharing it!
    BIG BIG Congratulations Atilola! Can't wait for the D-Day... And yes I am coming (by crook or hook!!) :-D
    God bless you loads and thanks for sharing this :-) :-) :-) xxxx

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    1. Lol. Of course you must come. I can feel your excitement already. Yes o, the way God does his things is unpredictable.

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  6. Awwwww!!!!!! Congratulations. i'm such a marriage fan. Totally looking forward to reading about it!!! I know what you mean about being overly personal, but what I've learned is that you inspire and encourage much more people when you share and really just ignore anyone who is hating. God protects his own! That's so exciting!! Whoooop.

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    1. Yeah. That's the consolidation... That someone will be better because of your experience

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  7. Congratulations!!! Can't wait to read your updates!

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    1. Thank you. Can't wait to read your comments tooo

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  8. Congrats!!!!!!! So excited for you.
    SO this was what all those conversations were about eh?
    Really excited. Thank God for this new phase you're getting into.

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  9. Awwwww!! You look sooo beautifullll!!!!

    Oya o. We dey wait!!!

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    1. Lol. See you o... After you kept us waiting for years

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  10. Awwwww. Congratulations. Will certainly be here to read your Monday posts. God bless your new home.

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    1. Amen. Thank you. We'll be expecting you

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  11. Looking forward to following this journey with you! Congratulations again Atilola!!

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  12. Big Congrats to ur new Home and next journey in Life wish u nothing than wisdom to flourish #Bighug&kisses

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  13. Heyyyyy Congratulations Atilola!

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  14. OH WOW, ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?! CONGRATULATIONS!!! OMG I CAN'T WAIT TO HEAR THE STORY OF HOW YOU MET!

    Berry Dakara Blog

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  15. Awww ... Yes, I have heard. It happened to me actually. Mine was 9 months. We were convinced within 6 months but needed to find a suitable date. :D :D

    Enjoy it dear because the length of courtship does not matter. Some people meet and in 3 months, have learnt much more about each other than those who have been courting for 5 years.

    Congratulations! I wish you a happier married life than your single life. ;)

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    1. My fiance was convinced before we even started dating. A week after into dating, he said we should get married, lol. The only reason it's taking a year is because of church and family protocol, and some other things.

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  16. Yaaaay! I'm super duper happy for you both! May The Lord almighty perfect what He started.

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  17. My parents met and married in six months and they're still happily together, 37 years after.


    Congrats babe. I will visit thisSbkig every Monday.

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    1. Wow. Really??? This shows it's not about the length of courtship o. I tap into their anointing.

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  18. and you did not ask us to come and collect aso ebi??? Congratulations!!! so happy for you! God will bless your marriage and make it everything you prayed for.

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  19. I do believe in one year miracle marriages..my song has been Genesis 24 for years on Isaac and Rebekah,and even without a physical boyfriend, I keep saying that everywhere I go that mine won't be more than a year, so seeing this is just *it* to me. God still does this! Yes!

    Congrats Atilola!
    Looking forward to Mondays on here..

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    1. Amen o. May God grant you your heart's desires. I listened to part of your interview on Nigeria Info last sunday morning

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  20. Aww congrats dear Atilola. I'm really happy for you and you look really nice in your traditional attire. I pray your home glows for Christ. Many more beautiful things ahead. xo!
    It's been a while, I do hope you've been fine ��

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  21. Congratulations mama!!! Saw a pic on Insta and said "Yassssssss!!!!"""
    Congrats again.

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  22. Where have I been.
    Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!
    I'm so happy, like I would for someone I know personally.
    Wow. Atilola congrats!!

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    1. You have been long lost, while the bread went stale on you. Lol.

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  23. OMG! Congratulations Ati! So sorry I've been a little infrequent, have had so much on my plate- congrats girl! Will definitely read your journey!

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    1. Aww thank you. Come back more often. Don't be a stranger, lol.

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  24. Dear Atilola, I found your blog via Berry Dakara. Well, im having a one-year-and-a-quarter marriage miracle next month. I will be sure to read up every step of the way.

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  25. Whoop, Berry sent me here and I'm excited to read all the posts in the series :)

    Tuke's Quest

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