Hi everyone. Hope we are all
doing great, and enjoying our Easter Break? Did I abscond from the blog? No! Never!
I can’t even try it, lol. Happy Easter to everyone reading this blog. I hope
you are enjoying your long break. So with the recent developments around me, a
lot of things have been on my mind, and I would like you guys to weigh in on
some of them.
I remember vividly sometime
in the year 2012, former president Goodluck Jonathan came to Lagos. I was on my
way back home from work when I was stopped at the end of third mainland bridge.
It was so painful because I was just about to pass when we were all stopped. No
one gave us any reasons. I was just looking at the clear empty road ahead of me
yet I couldn't go. We were made to wait for over 1 hour before we could pass.
You know the funniest thing? The president did not even pass our road. He
passed the other side of the bridge, the one facing the island. So why on earth
were we who had nothing to do with his route stopped? I was so pissed with that
government that I vowed to never vote for them even though I never did before.
So you can imagine last week when the whole Lagos was in a chaos because of a
presidential visit. I wondered why we operate an oppressive government. Were
those complicated logistics really necessary? Were there truly no other ways
the president could have come into town with other citizens getting frustrated?
Selah
I'm currently wondering when
it's time to start being strict and stern with a child.
I feel like my baby
tries to manipulate me a lot with tears and tantrums, but I don't want to start
really strict discipline yet if he's not wise enough to understand the message
I'm trying to pass across. So when exactly is the appropriate time? Maybe
mothers or experience child carers can help me here
For employers who run their
own businesses, I have realized that it's not good to be absent from your
business for a while no matter how reliable you feel your staff are. Absence
breeds indiscipline in the work place. No one can impact the work culture you
desire to see in your business like you. By the time you decide to go back to
work, the damage done by your absence can be so bad that it won’t be reversible
or reparable again.
I'm sure we've heard it said
so many times that we should not involve third parties in our relationships,
especially marital relationships. We might know of situations where third
parties came in and wrecked relationships beyond damage. On the flip side, we
might have heard of how certain third parties saved marriages on the brink of
collapse. So what is your take? Should we involve third parties in our intimate
relationships? Yes or no? If no, why not? If yes, In what kind of situations should we involve
third parties? What kind of third parties should be involved? To what extent
should third parties be involved?
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I will like to read comments
about one, more, or all of the issues I have raised here. Thank you for making
it fun
Lol @ oppressive government.
ReplyDeleteAs a people, I think we don't have a voice. We let anything slide. That's the only reason I can think of why we aren't revolting about the kind of governance we get year in year out.
So, aside making noise on social media, we just swallow anything thrown at us.
Wisdom is needed for a third party involvement in a relationship. Wisdom to know if and when one wants to get a third party into their relationship situation. Some people (couples) set limits- Either never to have third party involvement, or when /the kind of situation they would want one and the kind of third party.
Thank you for your comment. I think the reason why we endure a lot is becaused we are not exposed well enough to know what are truly our right... majority of us, not all.
DeleteI agree with your wisdom comment. Unfortunately, many of us are not wise, or rather, we don't apply the wisdom.
Training and discipline starts from the cradle. Every child use cries and tantrums to control their mothers. It is now left for the mother to maintain a stand early enough. For instance, some babies cry for leaving them on the bed, they want you to carry them on your back always before they can sleep. You don't have to dance to their tune always otherwise, they won't sleep until you do their bidding. You have to be firm.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment. I agree with you. My son has more sense than I give him credit for, and we will be wearing the same trousers soon.
DeleteAt this age, discipline of a toddler has more to do with you, than the child. It means YOU set a schedule for your child and stick to it. It means YOU don't give in to any tantrums, whining or unnecessary crying when toddler is trying to "manipulate" you. It means you say what you say and mean it. e.g. "If you are naughty, mummy won't give you any biscuits" and NOT changing your mind no matter what! Dads tend to be better at this with male children than mums are. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for the advice. I will be implementing them.
DeleteThe question is what age is appropriate?
A toddler is a very specific age range. I think it starts at age 1 to 4.
DeleteWhen it comes to infants, you can "discipline" them (yourself) by sleep training them. That you can start at 4 months.
Thank you very much. Funny enuf, I sleep-trained my 6 month old last week. Wasn't difficult at all.
DeleteHi, Re. your 3rd party involvement mention. Many times its easy to manage differences within the couple, but as time goes, there could be a thorny issue where agreement is taking a while to reach. Depending on the impact of the no agreement issue, it would help to carefully identify a reasonable and godly third party who can prayerfully intervene and also give confidentiality. for example, if one spouse decides its time to relocate and the other is not on board and it continues to cause disagreement for a long time. It would help to get someone preferably not a family member who can help. My 2 cents.
ReplyDeleteHmm. There are definitely some serious situations that should involve third parties. In that case, getting the right third-party requires wisdom!
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