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Being an open identity blogger means you have automatic monitoring spirits on your case. So you might need to go to MFM prayer city for monthly spiritual check. Exes, stalkers, enemies, frenemies, families, friends, and even your parents will be using your blog to keep tab on you.
That is how last week, I was frying egg. My mum saw me, and said “you have started eating egg?”
I looked at her with a bewildered face, saying “why won’t I eat egg? Isn’t egg healthy? I never stopped eating egg.”
Then she goes “Didn’t you write about how eggs were affecting you on your blog some time ago?”
“That’s because I overdosed on eggs, aargh!”
You see what I mean by monitoring spirits? A post of over two years ago! You can read it here.
This is the reason why I am baffled at anonymous bloggers like Naija Bachelor who are eager to come out of the closet. It’s as if they just want to give up all that freedom I envy for nothing. All they get is a month or so of blogsville hailing, and when the mystery fades and dusts settles, they might wish again that they were anonymous.
Note please. If you are anonymous, that doesn’t mean you should say all the nonsense in this world. There are so many anonymouses whose covers have been blown. I personally know a couple of anonymous bloggers because they considered me worthy enough to reveal themselves to me, in person. So we don’t want to read your escapades about how you regularly cheat on your wife or husband, or colourful details of how many married men you have slept with. That kind of thing usually comes back to bite in the butt. You can read more about that here.
As for those who call themselves semi-anonymous like Toinlicious and Cherrywine, una jus dey deceive yaselves. You are either anonymous or not. *ducks blows*
And lastly, for anonymous commenters who hide their identities just to spew insulting and hate comments on people’s blogs, well, if you are not a coward, why don’t you comment using your real identity. Remember that you will sow what you reap, even if you repent in blogsville church and become born again!
Hehe, the convos you have with your mom, hilarious stuff.
ReplyDeleteBeing anonymous...has it's pros and cons I think. I like my privacy though.
Yes o. I even toyed with the idea of converting this blog to a mum and daughter banter type. Maybe I would in future sha. Thanks
DeleteI know this feeling
ReplyDeleteI was just wondering why I wasn't anon the other day :)
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Looll. I guess you had some serious things to let out.
DeleteLOOOOL @ monitoring spirit...To this I say cheers to my towns people aka anonymous
ReplyDeleteYou guys can start an association naa. But then, you won't be anonynmous anymore.
DeleteI was also a novice when I started blogging , until I learned the ropes. I wish I was anonymous. I tried to be semi anonymous when I came back, but had to come out when someone was being devious with my name and comments.
ReplyDeleteAnonymity gives boldness to say things which ordinarily you won't say in your blog, but some covers are blown off by mistake, like you said. Anonymous commenters gave me too much palava in my old blog. I don't have the strength to drag issues with anyone in my new blog.
Ahahaha@ monitoring spirit. So true. Hence, I stopped talking about some stuff especially about marriage since an anonymous cussed me in an entertainment blog when I made a comment. She knows herself, and she got a taste of her own bitter pill!
I.will advise any new blogger who is not blogging, for money, should go anonymous. It does not worth the trouble of exposing yourself in blogsville anymore. Many people have access to internet now compared to 4 years ago. Being anonymous does not mean you should wash your dirty linens outside or reveal things discussed in confidence. Rather, it makes you blind to impartiality and simply say the things in your mind without fear of whom you might offend. Since, I came back as Nitty gritty, I have been walking on egg shells, putting my controversial being under leash! Do I like it? Not all the time! I have learnt to visit fewer blogs and comment less because, I don't want to say what I actually think.
The advantage of a known blogger is that your readers can put a face to the words. And it encourages people to visit that blog.
Yes o. Marriage and intimate relationship matters are off the table for non-anonymous. Before the whole village use your blog to finish you.
DeleteI also think new bloggers should try the anonymous thing first before they fully come out.
I was also a novice when I started blogging , until I learned the ropes. I wish I was anonymous. I tried to be semi anonymous when I came back, but had to come out when someone was being devious with my name and comments.
ReplyDeleteAnonymity gives boldness to say things which ordinarily you won't say in your blog, but some covers are blown off by mistake, like you said. Anonymous commenters gave me too much palava in my old blog. I don't have the strength to drag issues with anyone in my new blog.
Ahahaha@ monitoring spirit. So true. Hence, I stopped talking about some stuff especially about marriage since an anonymous cussed me in an entertainment blog when I made a comment. She knows herself, and she got a taste of her own bitter pill!
I.will advise any new blogger who is not blogging, for money, should go anonymous. It does not worth the trouble of exposing yourself in blogsville anymore. Many people have access to internet now compared to 4 years ago. Being anonymous does not mean you should wash your dirty linens outside or reveal things discussed in confidence. Rather, it makes you blind to impartiality and simply say the things in your mind without fear of whom you might offend. Since, I came back as Nitty gritty, I have been walking on egg shells, putting my controversial being under leash! Do I like it? Not all the time! I have learnt to visit fewer blogs and comment less because, I don't want to say what I actually think.
The advantage of a known blogger is that your readers can put a face to the words. And it encourages people to visit that blog.
I understand how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I should open another blog with which I'd write anonymously. I'm really considering it. But on the other hand, saying some things with a face to them is exactly the kind of fierceness and bravery we need if our voices would be taken seriously
ReplyDeleteIf you think you have a lot of things to say that your open identity will not allow, you can start an anonymous blog o, especially if your blog is still new.
DeleteNah. I like to put a face on it. Many people think blogging anonymously protects them from whatever they write, so they are incredibly rude, untruthful, or worse. But one day 'fowl yansh go show!'
ReplyDeleteLooolll. But there are a lot of anonymous bloggers that are nice and factual o. Oya, point me to the rude ones, lemme gaan warn them, lol.
DeleteLol. I honestly tried the anonymous blogging thing and a few people here follow my other blog but it didn't work. I have abandoned it.
ReplyDeleteI think its the non-anonymous bloggers that are actually free because you are not constantly worrying if whatever you say will hint at who is behind the account. We are the free bloggers oh!!
You were anonymous at a time? Wow.
DeleteI like your perspective on the free thing, I never saw it that way. Well, maybe I should change the word free to caged. Non-anonymous bloggers are sometimes caged. Is that okay now?
I didn't actually set out to be anonymous. Even right now, I'm not sure I'm anonymous because my first few followers were family and friends and I'm not averse to meeting up with other bloggers or plugging my blog in company. It's not a ploy to say rubbish. It's just how I started and how I've been. The truth is I just want to write! Anonymously or otherwise.
ReplyDeleteOf course, you are not averse to meeting bloggers. I know that for a fact, madam cute teddy bear, lol. So will you come out of the closet one day, and let other people see how fine and fresh you really are?
DeleteI am annonymus to some extent. I have shared my blog link with a few people in recent years. I like being an "annonymus" blogger though, It's privacy for me, although I don't wirte about anything that would make me be afraid to show my face. I guess It'a a personal choice that I'm comfortable with at this time.
ReplyDeleteSo far, I have not seen anything controversial on your blog, even though I started following you not long ago.
DeleteHehehe...and I am back...**giggling** To answer your question (the one you asked me some days back - I am Kenyan)....okay back to the topic...Uhmmmm...I am not down with the Anonymous thingy mehnn...I believe that for people to able to connect with your content as a reality blogger, you have to be REAL!....and that means placing a face to your posts....I don't wanna read bout you dissing someone bout some drama when I can't place a face to your post and draw my conclusions like 'Uhhhh she doesn't look like fighter or Goddamnbullshit! she looks like a cougar'....so yeah...the whole anonymous thing was never on the table when I set out to become a blogger....and I love it....I don't get anonymous bloggers buh I respect them especially when they got an audience...it goes a long way to show that people have looked beyond the anonymity and have embraced what they can get....**shrugs**
ReplyDeleteSo hows you mamacita?
Lool. Someone like you can never be anonymous. You are way to open, transparent, and honest to be anonymous. All it takes is for a friend to stumble on your blog, and your cover will be blown immediately.
DeleteMe too I'm anony...*coughs* haha...thing is I wish I was anonymous at some point. Especially the period I stopped writing for long months as I was battling so many decisions on whether to keep blogging or not. But I guess I just buried them and the desire to keep blogging overpowered those reasons.
ReplyDeleteWho knows what may happen next...
Hmmm. Have I ever wished I was anonymous? Once or twice. Sometimes I really want to say something to have to bite my tongue (or fingers) because the reactions will follow me. I have to censor some things I say because readers know me and my family, and I don't want them to encounter negative reactions based on my thoughts/feelings.
ReplyDeleteI write anonymously only because of my family, particularly my in-laws.
ReplyDeleteMy own family probably wouldn't be bothered as I've ventured into creative paths that have exposed the family name but when you have in-laws and Co to consider, you realise that, not only might they just not get your need to blog ( for expression) but they'll probably use what you write as fodder for future beef.....
It's just not worth it.
Otherwise, I'm just as able to write whatever I write with my identity as I am anonymously.
Only two bloggers probably know my identity and one was a mistake- though I've come to love her.
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