So this still happens on roads

I was going to vigil last Friday night. I decided to follow someone because I had a busy weekend ahead, and I wasn’t sure I was going to get fuel, due to the current fuel scarcity. So I just wised up, and started saving my fuel. Funny enough, I later walked past the filling station, and there was no queue.

Anyway, so I left my house by 8.30 pm to walk all the way to my friend’s house, so we could go for the vigil together. I hate bus and bikes and I like to walk, so even though it was a very long walk, I decided to trek. I am a very fast walker and it took me 30 minutes to walk, so it would take a normal healthy person one hour to make the journey by trekking.

Anyway, after the first 10 minutes, some guy steps up to me. I had earphones on, listening to switchfoot, so I didn’t notice his presence. It was not until he got close to me that it occurred to me that this guy was trying to get my attention.

Seeing that it is a small world, and I am a nice girl, I removed my earphones to listen to what he was trying to say to me, in case he was trying to tell me that he recognised me from somewhere.

“Yes?” I started.

“Hi, I just want to talk to you and get to know you.” He said.

I put the earphones back on.

End of conversation.

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I kept walk, ignoring the guy. I told myself he would soon leave me and turn back, seeing that the journey was still very long for me. I kept saying to myself “so guys still approach girls on the road in this day and age of modern technology.” I thought all the first timer toasting had graduated to facebook, twitter, whatsapp, etc. I was really shocked. I mean, I can’t remember when last I have made a journey by trekking since I started working from home a couple of years ago. And the time I tried it now, this happens.

Anyway, the guy didn’t do what I thought he would do. He just kept following me. Sometime, I would think he isn’t there, and 5 seconds later, he is right by my side. I wondered what kind of wahala this is. It wasn’t like I was spectacularly dressed. I was wearing a normal loose-fitting top and baggy harem dropcrotch pants. I tied a black scarf, flat sandals, and slung an old messenger bad in a diagonal fashion. That is to say, I was looking very ordinary! Yet this guy kept following.

After a while, I became irritated. I removed my earphones, and asked him to stop following me. All he could say was.

“I just want to get to know you. I can see you are walking very fast. You must be in a hurry.”

I put the earphones back on.

End of conversation.

And so, this guy kept following me. He walked with me through major roads and minor roads. I increased my pace, crossed the roads, passed through expressways, passed through dark corners, yet he never relented.

One time, he brushed my shoulder with his. I screamed “what’s all these?”

“Sorry, sorry, I just want to know you.” He said.

I put the earphones back on.

End of conversation.

Finally and gratefully, I got the gate of my friend’s street, which was manned by security guards. I spoke to the guards and mentioned who I wanted to see. The guy finally left me and walked away.
 
Maybe he thought I was approaching my house, and reporting him to the security guards. Or maybe he thought he had made headway by finally knowing my street, so he could hang around from time to time to look for me, lol. As for me, I was happy to be finally rid of the unwelcome companion.

I know I look far younger than my age, but I thought all these things happened in those days when I was 14 to 18 years old. I can’t imagine that guys still waste their time and sweat following ladies on the road. That is joblessness of the highest order, and oh so outdated.

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  1. This was funny. I guess if he dosen't know your number or name or anything about you he can't facebook, tweet, whatsapp you....so the old school method still has relevance I guess :-)

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    1. No o. That's not what I meant. I mean that I thought the initial meeting takes place on the internet.

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  2. Lmho! Choi, that guy suffered sha. But come to think of it, didn't he look cute enough to be talk to a fine lady? Hehehe. . .

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    1. Loool. I'm sorry, but I didn't take a good look at his face. I was that disinterested.

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  3. Oh wow really? You should have given him a chance na he was clearly smitten hehe.

    Something like this has happened to me before, I was even serenaded. He kept singing "I don wanna jaba jaba sweet girl"... But that was a long time ago though, and I never forgot.

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    1. Loooolll. I can't even shout. So as a married woman, do they still follow you?

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  4. Yimu. If he rolled along in his 4×4 and hinted a little more fluently, this story might have ended differently....or at least been given some consideration ;)

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    1. Lmao @ the story ending differently If he had a 4x4. Call me weird but I get really irritated when guys do that. Honk the horns of their cars when I'm walking and think it's a Canadian Visa... Like who cares??! Abeg everyone should stay for their own lane.

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    2. @ T. Notes: Lol, but you are actually wrong. I wrote something about that in this post. The Yuppy sugar daddy. http://www.hattylolla.com/2010/06/the-yuppy-sugar-daddy.html

      @ Cee: Lol at canadian visa. As for me, anyone who honks at me is on a longgggggg thing. I won't even hear cos I always have earphones on.

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  5. Yes oh. Still happens alot. Sigh.

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    1. You sound like you are a constant candidate of street toasting, lol. Anyway, I am not surprised since you are madam cuteness.

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  6. It's happens everywhere, in fact sum guys 'r just waka waka toaster lol

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    1. Those are truly jobless human beings.

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  7. Yes. It still does.
    Nice blog, Lola.
    Check DNB Stories.

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    1. Thanks for dropping by my blog. I will check yours out.

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    1. I asked Toin this same question in her last post. Atilola, are you sure you haven't been praying for your husband to locate you by fire? Maybe that is why these guys are resilient? Lol

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    2. @ Toinlicious: Trust me, there was nothing hot about this cake that night, lol.

      @ Atoskin: Even though I am unmarried, I really don't want my husband to use fire to locate me, lol.

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  9. Hatty baby! Fine geh invoking 'Moses & the Israelites' moves in the hearts of lonely Lagos boys! This was funny though. I haven't had it happen to me since I was teenager as I drive my lazy ass everywhere.

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    1. Abeg, don't join the club. Keep moving around in your car in order to protect yourself from those jobless street wakabouts.

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  10. wait o! The guy followed you for 30 minutes at a brisk pace? And you never gave him a chance? O gehl you harsh o. Chai! God dey. Note to self: "when you finally gather the liver to toast Atilola, do not approached her on the road". LMAO. See as the guy suffer himself. I can just imagine him waiting at the corner of your friend's street wondering why you never leave your house. *smh*

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    1. No o, I am not harsh. The guy followed me to my destination, not due to romantic persistence, but apparent joblessness.

      Honestly, I believe he would be hanging around that estate for a while.

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  11. Hehehe.....you could have told him off the first instant instead of ignoring him tho'....Hows you mamacita?


    Tibs Tells Tales

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    1. Lol. Maybe because I didn't want to be rude. I thought ignoring him will send the same message, albeit in a gentler manner. Apparently, I was wrong.

      I'm great.

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  12. So nothing ever changes

    I don't walk at all o
    Never.
    I don't know how to handle such confrontations and my sis says, don't be rude o, what if the guy is vengeful

    Hmmm I am shaking my head for him sha, he doesn't have any game. Just sounds stupid.

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  13. blessings....
    Please do be careful, you are lucky that the guy was essentially harmless because you took a big risk.

    One thing my might want to be mindful of, is not completely blocking one of your senses, in this case your hearing, if you choose to use earphones on long treks please only put it in one ear so the other is tuned to your surroundings.

    Thank God you are safe.
    I imagine you got a ride back home?

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    1. This is totally true though. I never even thought about it

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  14. I'm beefing you @ilola.You just burst the guy's bubbles all over the place.I did a similar thing to one of my babes back then in the Uni.I must've followed her for around 30mins and she got tired and gave me her number,the rest is history.Ordinary to you might be extra-ordinary to someone else.The guy saw something more than the ordinary you felt you were looking.If na me,i'd have asked the gateman if you were a resident or visitor in the compound.lol

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  15. I guess it's stalking season going by Toin's experience recently too.

    In a weird way, I'd say that dude has resilience though (whatever his intentions were) even as you kept dishing out the Ela oju kan.
    Please stay safe and vigilant o.

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    1. It totally is man. Chantel also got herself a stalker story (after she berated me for giving my number to a stranger)

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  16. Now this is interesting..... Even with social media some people prefer to stalk by trekking. You sef get mind to dey waka at 8.30pm.i just got a good laugh

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    1. Lol. People are still on the road by that time. It is a residential area in Lagos na, no biggie.

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  17. Haba truthfully I don't think he could see another way of getting to know you. Road toasting was the rage in the university and I think I have done it once or twice since then but honestly if I meet you on the road and I want to get to know you better am I supposed to give up before I start because I don't want to be tagged jobless?

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    1. You too, check it na. You said university, where you are almost sure the girl is a student. Not a random passerby in the middle of nowhere in Lagos. I am sorry but I won't be impressed if a guy decides to start following me on the streets of Lagos. I automatically assume he does it regularly. Sorry.

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  18. Aaaaah!.... I can't laugh! The guy dey try the law of persistency ni! You know, persistence wins the game in the first attempt in most cases (who knows, opportunity might meet with preparations, abi? And the road was the only medium of access). Though coudn't talk of his intentions. Moreover, 85% blockade of ear while strolling is not good for your health o!. A question? Can you get angry without first thinking about it? I dare you can't? Right? Though hard sometimes, but you can hear some words and just feel like that you didn't hear nothing (Je ko gba eti otun wole, ko gba tosi jade), depending on what you've initially filled your mind with sha o!, and I know you are a Sunday school girl! So its a thing of the mind and extra-strong determination.

    Ooooohhhh see me o! I almost forgot? I remember your brains (I mean decent sane ladies like Atilola) are wired to receive love lyrics, so on the other hand, I may not strictly lay any blame on you for your attempted defense means.

    But I am strongly convinced that you stand for something and cannot fall for anything (couldn't really see your mind o!). Because you can fall for me if i start my own love lyrics now, but let me save that for another day sha! Lol!

    I've been busy lately! I think i requested a video of the Brazil tour on whatsapp some months back. Please could you post a link? And it seems you dump that line (I could see last seen Dec 17 on whatsapp)?

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    1. Lol. I really looked forward to dumping that line from whatsapp. Please go to wordsbyatilola.com, you will see one of the brazil videos. Lol at your love lyrics. They better be strong.

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    2. Hehe!.. You should trust me nah, hehe!...It will sure break, dividing into every @ilola-lovelyricsproof-barrier... Sure this is Autoflamefanningloveneeringlyrics (its fire can never go out)!... Burning in @i mind till Christ returns (sure to past that self, only that we would have turned angel-like at the time)...Anyways, thanks for your kind reply and for the link. (I think its the ANATOMY OF ME. Couldn't watch it though, as my downlink speed is creeping at the moment, maybe better later). Keep up the good work! We will meet at the top one day!

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