"Your sister will get married before you, with this kind of hair you have on your head!!!". This was what an old distant relative of mine said when she saw me. She had not seen me for about 4 years and when she sees me, without even greeting me, all she could talk about was marriage and my appearance. I just smiled.
Why must African women find a way to link everything in this world to marriage, anytime they look at a young girl, all they consider is ‘marriageability’. What she does, what she wears, how she carries herself, anything at all will be linked to her chances of settling down ‘happily’ because they don’t want their daughters to become old maids. The marriage song has always been sung into my ears right from when I was about 13 years old and I am still not free from its lyrics. I dear not say that I am not interested in marriage, I will be taken straight away for spiritual deliverance!
Secondly, what has my hair got to do with my chances of getting married? Ok, I am on dreadlocks, but that does not mean I am irresponsible or that no responsible man will want to marry me. Personally, I think it’s only a myopic person like my aunt that would think I am not a ‘wife material’ because I am on dreadlocks. We are no more in the seventies. Hair and marriage, how do they correlate?
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The tins unmarried people suffer in this life from older family members - you would think it was a curse or some kind of esoteric disease!
ReplyDeleteNa so now.. no be 9ja.. everything must roll into everything as long as it points to what they want..
ReplyDeleteShe tried to judge a book by it's cover eventually giving a wrong judgment on the cover.
ReplyDeleteTsk tsk,older aunts and their views..If you had on a low cut hair,she'd probably say the same thing too.
ReplyDeleteNice spot you got here.
thanx people for your comments, i really appreciate them. I hope ypu will be dropping by regularly to drop comments on futeure posts cos getting readers has not been an easy task for me.
ReplyDeleteOh well, its typical abt nigerian old folks to link everything including d way u have a bath to Marriage, i think its pathetic.
ReplyDeleteIts Bogzy
Lool i can totally imagine. I am tempted to lock my hair. What do you think?
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