Life's Ambition

For a very long time, I saw people give their whole life to ambitions. Fruitless, worthless ambitions, because after all said and done, they died and left all they slaved for and sometimes, not even enjoying the fruits of their labour. I would confess that sometimes, I had judgmental opinions about this kind of people. I used to ask myself why someone will go through hell and high waters just to gain material stuffs and then lose family, friends, loved ones and many times, the love of the wife and children we thought we were slaving for. Every time I thought about all these, I promised myself that I will not give the whole of my life to any ambition, company or firm. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not lazy but I promised myself that when I get there, I’d balance it out. I’d have time for my children, husband and have fun in life while still working hard and achieving my goals. I felt that it just is not right for me to slave for any man or company, make some people rich and then lose my own life. At least that’s how I saw it.
Guess what people, its 9pm now and I am still at work. I am in my early 20s, young and very energetic and I am doing the very thing I promised myself not to do, I was quick to judge and now the tables have turned. Everyday, I leave home by 5am, get home by 10pm and as for family, I see them for about 3 minutes every weekday and I am just too tired during the weekends to have time for anyone. I guess I shouldn’t be quick to judge people again especially if I have not walked in their shoes. I will still change though, maybe when I am married with kids, just maybe!

A Thorn in my Flesh

Ouch!?! I cried out as my friend tried to get a thorn out from underneath my finger nails. He clipped of a part of my nails and started piercing my skin gently. All these, He did out of love for me because it would have been more cruel if he left it there.
If you have ever had a thorn in your flesh, you will agree with me when it comes to the level of the pain, it is not bearable at all. One characteristic of a thorn is this, only one party can win. Either you get rid of the thorn or the thorn gets rid of you. Take for instance, you have a tiny chip of wood under your nails, the truth of the matter is that no matter how small the chip is, you will have to get rid of it. If you do not, the pain will get more serious, a pulse will develop in your skin, your finger will decay and at the day, you will have to cut off the finger. In short, one will have to give way for the other.
Another characteristic of a thorn is that they are most times very small.
Applying this to life, some people and some issues in life come up as thorns in our life and we will never be able to live life comfortably until we get rid of those thorns. If we do not get rid of them, it might be very disastrous and can even lead to death in extreme cases. Examples are abusive marriages and relationships, bad friends that influence badly etc.
My advice, get rid of that thorn in your flesh immediately or it will get rid of you.

What are you looking for?

I love quotes, popular and meaningful ones and I always wish I could write quotes that will make sense and be used all around the world. It’s a way for one’s name to continue to live through generations even when one is long gone. With this said, I release my first quote publicly.

‘When you don’t know what you are looking for, even when you see it or it sees you, you will never recognize it and you will keep searching’.
My mum called me into her room sometime ago and asked me to look for a particular cloth, she described it but I just couldn’t picture it in my mind. So many cloths she had fitted the description and at that point, I knew that I would never find the cloth even if I saw it. So I showed her everything that fitted the description she gave me but none passed the test so I just pretended to continue searching, even looking in irrelevant places but deep inside of me, I knew that the only person that could find it was my mum.

The cloth was later found by my mum and guess what, it was among those I brought out earlier for her. I had seen it but I didn’t know I had because my mind just couldn’t capture it.

A wise man once said, ‘if you don’t have an idea of your destination, how do you know when you have arrived?’ many of us have no clear vision of what we want or where we are going to. We just have vague descriptions and unrealistic expectations and therefore, golden opportunities pass by us times without number and we later cry out saying, ‘life is not fair’.

Most people in this life are only happy when they have what they want. Therefore readers, if you want to have what you want, the first step is to know it. Have a crystal clear description of it and the next is to have a realistic plan on how to get it or if it’s a destination, have a plan on how to get there having first the destination in mind and the rest is just like following a road map!