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Seven things to consider before Homeschooling

Is Homeschooling for everyone? What are the pros and cons? Do the children really come out shy? Is it realistic? In this continuing conversation about our Homeschooling, I talk about seven important factors to consider before making the decision to Homeschool your child

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- How we started our Homeschooling journey

We are currently homeschooling our boys, a journey we started over 2 years ago. In this episode, I talk about what precipitated our decision to Homeschool, and how we are doing it.

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Getting Pregnant immediately after Marriage. Is it adivisable?

Many couples have the dream of bonding in their marriage before the start a family, but the women unexpectedly get pregnant immediately after marriage, even though the never planned for it. I also had an experience with this. 

In this episode of Let's DO Life, I talk about how it happened, my reaction afterwards, and if we were able to ever recover and have our time together again.

It is real, honest, and truthful gist I give to you all

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Are all Men are Scum or you just attract Scum?

Ever since I have been a child, I have been hearing the same song of "all men are cheat, liars, dogs, etc. Every few years, the nomenclature changes, but the idea remains the same. This begs the question, is there some truth to this? Are all men really bad, leaving a few good ones that cannot go round? Are women really jezebels?

Why do some women enjoy their marriages and relationships while some others only meet the men who are scum?

In this insightful episode of Let's DO Life, I talk about how knowingly or unknowingly, we attract or repel certain kinds of people to ourselves, just by our expectations and standards. It is short, sharp, and straight to the point.

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Is Matchmaking risky? How matchmaking worked for me in Marriage

If you have heard about my marriage story, you will know that there are a lot of divine and interesting things about it, including the fact that I was matchmade.

I have always been open to matchmaking. I think it is a more interesting, direct, and less stress path to meeting a potential future partner.

Unfortunately, many people, especially women, are not as open to it because they feel is passes across the message of desperation. If you are having problem meeting and connecting with people, there is no shame in asking for help, as long as you are sincere with yourself.

In this video, I talk about important things to note if you are considering meeting people through matchmaking. It can be interesting, adrenaline-filled, but risky, if not done correctly, sincerely, and with the right intentions.

I have also interjected with some of my own personal experiences, both good and bad.

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Giving Birth in Canada (Part 3) | USA vs Canada. Which is better?

In this last part of my Giving Birth in Canada series, I share with you the pros and cons of giving birth in Canada versus the USA.

If you want a child with foreign citizenship, and you are confused about the choices to make between these two countries, this video will help you get more clarification, and make your choice.

Get the points, weigh your options, and make your decisions.

I hope you learn a few things, and share with others who might need it.

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YOU LOOK LIKE A FEMINIST TO ME

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There’s this new trend of people trying to distance themselves from feminism even though everything they stand for reeks of is from the feminism.


They start statements with things like “I’m not a feminist but...”


If you catch yourself saying this, you are most likely a feminist.


...And that is a good thing.


Contrary to what you might be thinking, feminism is not a bad movement. It’s not a man-bashing, bra-tearing, anger-manifesting, vile-spewing movement of women out to avenge their exes and fathers misbehavior on all men.


It’s because of feminism you as a woman can dare to dream of being anything and actually achieve it


It’s because of feminism you are being paid equally with your male counterparts


It’s because of feminism you are seeing the rise of women in the boardroom and striving to be like them


It’s because of feminism you are able to 

From Yam Legs to Hot Legs – An Ugly Duckling Story

 As a young girl in Senior Secondary school, I was constantly body-shamed about my legs, especially by one boy in particular. I really don’t think he did it out of wickedness. I think it was out of ignorance of how the effect of his words could define the way I see myself and influence my self-esteem. You see, sometimes, words are like arrows shot way ahead of you. They have a way of going into your future to wait for you before the strike your bullseye. And that is when the rotten seed that had been planted form way back begins to take root and germinate.

I can’t count how many times I heard words like “see your yam legs”, “Isu”, “Yam ooo”, “Short and stout” “Muscle”.

I just eyed and ignored the perpetrator when those words were thrown at me, but of course, the roots had begun to form deep, even though the trees were still wearing harry potter’s invisibility cloak.

It didn’t help that I used to have really bowed legs when I was a baby. I’m talking really bowed that you could trace the letter O from it. Thankfully, my mother was wise enough to take me to the Orthopaedic Hospital in Igbobi to get it sorted. She used all her salary to buy a very expensive drug and the issue was sorted out in a matter of months. 

The knowledge of my history with bow legs as a child and “yam” legs as a teenager made me so insecure about my legs that I decided never to expose my legs when I finished secondary school, where we had been forced to wear skirt.

And so, for the next four years of my life, you would never catch me wearing anything knee-length or above.

Sometime later, my mum bought me a very good-looking pair of knee length farmer shorts. I wore them to class one day and a few people commented on how I had nice legs. I accepted the compliments gracefully, but a bit sceptically.

I later examined my legs well, and was like “hmm, it seems my legs are not bad ooo”.

It was then I gradually gained the confidence to expose my leg. I started wearing knee lengths and above-the-knee dresses and shorts 

But you see this insecurity, it is a bastard, I tell you. If you don’t stone it to death, burn and bury the ashes in the pit of hell, its seed will never die out and will continue to lurk around like a sneaky rent-owing tenant in an apartment it has been evicted from. It still waited for me into my thirties. 

When I started working out, I stayed away from leg workout. I worked out every part of my body except from my knees below.

One day, I was having a conversation with my former instructor, and I asked him if it was compulsory for me to do leg workouts. He quickly pointed out to me the danger of neglecting “legs” while working all other parts.

I told him I didn’t want to do “legs” because I have “yams” and I don’t want to have more “yams”

He looked and me and said sternly, “They are not “yams”, they are called calves. You don’t know what you have. Women are killing themselves in the gym everyday to have calves. They are taking steroids, doing surgery, and lifting heavy weights. Calves are what is in vogue now. You have this naturally and you are despising it”

What an irony. Something I was shamed and insulted for is what everyone is dying to have now. This is the same way people were shamed for having big butts with words like “Idi nla, Idi rabata,” etc, but now some people are literally dying under the knife and risking their lives to get this booty.

Since the talk with my instructor, every atom of insecurity I had about my legs melted like ice cubes exposed under Gombe sun.